Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some reason romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship in not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child’s earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant’s needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things-being on the same page is very important. The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship: 1. Speak up. If something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in. 2. Respect your partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships. 3. Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way. 4. Be supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down. 5. Respect each others privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space. Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re walking on eggshells. Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust, it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship. Healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to: 1. Go out with your friends without your partner. 2. Participate in activities and hobbies you like. 3. Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone. 4. Respect each others individual likes and needs. Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. Possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors are at their root exertions of power and control. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind!!!



I wanted to blog about the affects stress has on your body. According to WebMD, Stress is any change in the environment that requires your body to react and adjust in response. Stress is a normal part of life, their are good and bad forms of stress. There is positive stress like getting a job promotion, and negative stress like when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation. If the person doesn’t know how to deal with it properly they can become overworked and stress-related tension builds. Stress can have physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. Some people tend to use alcohol, tobacco, or drugs to try to relieve their stress. Instead of it helping it tends to keep the body in a stressed state and cause more problems. “Consider this: -Forty-three percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress. -Seventy-five percent to 90% of all doctor’s office visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints. -Stress can play a part in problems such as headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, arthritis, depression, and anxiety. -The Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) declared stress a hazard of the workplace. Stress costs American industry more than $300 billion annually. -The lifetime prevalence of an emotional disorder is more than 50%, often due to chronic, untreated stress reactions.” Stress symptoms can affect your body, your thoughts and feelings, and your behavior. Recognizing common stress symptoms can give you a jump on managing them. Stress that’s left unchecked can contribute to many health problems, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity and diabetes. Common effects of stress on your body can be fatigue, change in sex drive, sleep problems, chest pain. Common effects of stress on your mood can be anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, sadness or depression, irritability or anger, lack of motivation or focus. Common effects of stress on your behavior can be angry outbursts, drug or alcohol abuse, overeating or undereating, social withdrawal, exercising less often. Some stress management strategies are: Regular physical activity, relaxing techniques such as deep breathing, keeping a sense of humor, socializing with family and friends, and setting aside time for hobbies, such as reading a book or listening to music. Find active ways to manage your stress. Inactive ways you may use to manage stress-such as watching television, surfing the internet or playing video games-may seem relaxing, but they may increase your stress over time. Be sure to get plenty of sleep and eat a healthy balanced diet. According to National Institute of Mental Health here are some ways to cope with stress. -Seek help from a qualified mental health care provider if you are overwhelmed, feel you cannot cope, have suicidal thoughts, or are using drugs or alcohol to cope. -Get proper health care for existing or new health problems. -Stay in touch with people who can provide emotional and other support. Ask for help from family and friends. -Recognize signs of your body’s response to stress, such as difficulty sleeping, increased alcohol and other substance use, being easily angered, feeling depressed, and having low energy. -Avoid dwelling on problems. -Explore stress coping programs, which may incorporate meditation, yoga, tai chi, or other gently exercises. This is why it is very important to recognize stress and try to get help for it as soon as possible.



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Mental illness

According to Wikipedia, a mental disorder, also called a mental illness or psychiatric disorder, is a diagnosis by a mental health professional of a behavioral or mental pattern that may cause suffering or poor ability to function in life. Such features may be persistent, relapsing and remitting, or occur as a single episode. The causes of mental disorders are often unclear. Theories may incorporate findings from a range of fields. Mental disorders are usually defined by a combination of how a person behaves, feels, perceives, or thinks. This may be associated with particular regions or functions of the brain, often in a social context. A mental disorder is one aspect of mental health. Cultural and religious beliefs, as well as social norms, should be taken into account when making a diagnosis. Psychotherapy and psychiatric medication are two major treatment options. Other treatments include social interventions, peer support, and self-help. In a minority of cases there might be involuntary detention or treatment. Prevention programs have been shown to reduce depression. Some of the most common disorders are anxiety, depression, bipolar. An anxiety disorder is diagnosed when various symptoms of anxiety create a significant distress and some degree of functional impairment in daily living. A person with an anxiety disorder find it difficult to function in areas of life such as social interaction, family relationships, work or school. A panic disorder is a panic attack it’s a sudden onset of intense apprehension, fearfulness, or terror, often associated with feelings of impending doom. These attacks have symptoms such as shortness of breath, palpitations, chest pains or discomfort, and choking or smothering sensations. Panic disorder is diagnosed when there are recurrent unexpected panic attacks. Agoraphobia is when people have panic attacks and the episodes are so overwhelming they will do anything to avoid having the experience again. People often think agoraphobia means fear of crowds or open spaces, but it is actually a fear of having a panic attack in a situation where you feel your escape might be difficult or embarrassing, or where help might not be available. Social anxiety disorder or social phobia is the most common anxiety disorder. It is a condition that involves fear of being appraised or judged negatively by others and as a result, feeling embarrassed or humiliated. People with social anxiety disorder can become quite afraid of making presentations or public speaking. I’m going to finish with some facts and statistics. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18% of the population. Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only one-third of those suffering receive treatment. Anxiety disorders cost the U.S. more than $42 billion a year, almost one-third of the country’s $148 billion total mental health bill. People  with an anxiety disorder are three to five times more likely to go to the doctor and six times more likely to be hospitalized for psychiatric disorders than those who do not suffer from anxiety disorders. Anxiety disorders develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality, and life events.

Quit Smoking

I wanted to write my blog on quitting smoking. I am going to give three resources with information on why you should quit. According to smokefree your chances of having cancer, heart attacks, heart disease, stroke, cataracts, and other diseases will go down. You will be less likely to catch colds or the flu, and will be able to recover quicker if I do get sick. You will breathe easier and cough less. Your blood pressure will go down. Your skin will look healthier and I will look more youthful. Your teeth and fingernails will not be stained. Those are just a few reasons nobody really stops to think about. According to Web MD, there are all least ten overlooked reasons to quit smoking. “From an increased blindness to a faster decline in mental function.” Smoking speeds up mental decline. The rate of mental decline is up to five times faster in smokers than nonsmokers, according to a study of 9,200 men and women over age 65. Smoking also puts into effect a vicious cycle of artery damage, clotting and increased risk of stroke, causing mental decline. Tobacco is harmful to the brain and speeds up onset of Alzheimer’s disease. Smoking cigarettes raises the risk of developing lupus but quitting cuts that risk, in an analysis of nine studies shows. Systemic lupus erythematosus known as lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that can cause inflammation, pain, and tissue damage throughout the body. Although some people with lupus have mild symptoms, it can become quite severe. “According to Harvard researchers reviewed studies that examined the relationship between cigarette smoking and lupus. Among current smokers, there was “a small but significant increased risk” for the development of lupus, they report. Former smokers did not have this increased risk, according to the study, which appeared in the March issue of Arthritis & Rheumatism. Tobacco smoke also appears to raise levels of a gut hormone called motilin in the blood and intestines. Motilin increases the contractions of the stomach and intestines, increasing the movement of food through the gut. “Higher-than-average motilin levels are linked to elevated risks of the infantile colic, the researchers write in the October issue of the journal Pediatrics.” According to Partnership For A Tobacco-Free Maine, smoking is the leading cause of preventable death in the United States. Smoking cigarettes and secondhand smoke causes an estimated average of 438,000 premature deaths each year in the United States. 40 percent are from cancer, 35 percent are from heart disease and stroke, 25 percent are from lung disease. Another interesting fact is nicotine addiction caused by smoking produces long lasting chemical changes in the brain similar to changes that place when someone uses drugs like heroine or cocaine-more evidence of the addictive, destructive nature of nicotine. When you decide to quit smoking your heart rate and blood pressure return to normal. Food begins to taste better, and your sense of smell returns to normal. Nerve endings in the mouth and nose begin to regenerate, improving taste and smell. In one year, your risk of heart disease, heart attack, and strike is cut in half. So i figured i would throw in some facts of what happens to your body when you decide to quit smoking.

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Things to be thankful for.

I’ve been asking a few people to make a list of what their grateful for and I’ve gotten some really good responses so here they go.

  1. For family, whether “by blood” or the people you’ve met in your life, that always make you feel at home.
  2.  For parents and guardians who most of the time they did their best, and maybe if you got lucky, will always be some of the best people you know.
  3.  For mothers who were the first people to love you, who nurtured, who taught, who cheered, who supported; who carried the pains you couldn’t.
  4.  For fathers who love you like you like their prized possession, who disciplined, who protected; who gave everything they could for you to be everything you are.
  5.  For brothers who were your first friends, who teased and taunted but would never let anyone hurt a hair on your head.
  6.  For sisters who were some of your first friends, who you fought with and fight with, but still never let anyone hurt a hair on your head.
  7.  For your significant other-that you can find someone to love, who doesn’t have to love you, but loves you anyway. And that you met them at the right time, in the right place, is nothing short of a miracle.
  8.  For your many significant others who are your true friends, who make life a lot easier to go through, and who love you more than you deserve.
  9.  For teachers who partook in your formation, who saw things in you that you didn’t, and who challenged you to do your best.
  10.  For pets and all animals we encounter who give us free and unconditional love. (Especially dogs of course.)
  11.  For good health if you have it, one of life’s greatest pleasures. For any good health at all.
  12.  For a body that allows you to function in any way.
  13.  For a brain that allows you to think about the world and it’s people in all the ways that you can.
  14.  For the colors of the world that make life so much brighter than it would be otherwise.
  15.  For seasons, no matter how many we experience and don’t experience, their more existence is proof that things are meant to change.
  16.  For the numerous cultures that we can learn about and even have the opportunity to visit all around the world.
  17.  For history, that we can learn about it in different ways and use that knowledge to make our present and future better.
  18.  For people who get up early in the morning to clean your streets and drive your busses and trains.
  19.  For baristas who make your hot and cold drinks to perfection.
  20.  For cashiers and baggers in grocery stores who stand on their feet for long hours each day, making lives easier.
  21.  For waiters and waitresses who put up with us when we’re at out worst-hungry.
  22.  For people who work at clothing stores, whose service often goes unnoticed.
  23.  For a warm bed at night.
  24.  For a coat in the winter time.
  25.  For a phone that allows you to communicate with people instantaneously even when your far away from them.

Social Media

I wanted to do some advantages and disadvantages to social media. Some advantages are 1. Worldwide connectivity. No matter if you are searching for a former college roommate, your first grade teacher, or an international friend, no easier or faster way to make a connection exists than social media. These connections help with a variety of things such as: finding romance, seeking a new job, locating assistance, receiving support from like minded individuals, and accessing news in real time. In many ways, these social communities are the virtual equivalent of church socials where family and friends gather to exchange news and get updates. Even the age old custom of connecting with pen pals has been upgraded as private messages can be sent over social media. When it comes to getting information, few methods are faster than social media. 2. Invaluable promotional tool. Companies, artists, and musicians can reach an impossibly large and diverse amount of people using social media sites. This allows them to promote and market themselves and their products in a way that has never been seen before. 3. Information spreads incredibly fast. Breaking new and other important information can spread like wildfire on social media sites. Important things like recalls, storm information, or missing children are all communicated and taken seriously very quickly. 4. Helps to catch and convict criminals. People often do not think of the consequences of what they post of these social sites. Pictures of themselves doing illegal things, or even bragging posts about crimes they have committed are all things that law enforcement use to persecute these criminals. They also use these sites to identify and solve existing cases.

Some disadvantages are 1. Perpetuates false and unreliable information. Just like stated above, anything can spread to millions of people within hours or days on social media. This also, unfortunately, includes things that are false or made up. This information can cause panic and severe misinformation in society. 2. Causing major relationship problems. Online social interactions with social networking have not only been starting new relationships, but ending many others. It is very simple to communicate and share pictures or plans with a person on social media and keep it completely under wraps. This new temptation has been driving wedges into people’s real life, offline relationships, often time ending them for good. Social networking puts trust to the limit. 3. Used to profile and discriminate in the job world. Just about everyone has a social media account the shows what they look like, the type of life that they live, and how old they are. Employers are using this to their advantages is some very unsettling ways. Jobs that are looking for a certain criteria of person, but cannot legally express these criteria, are using social media to pre-screen their applicants. 4. The addiction is real. One of the biggest problems with the social media craze is that people are becoming more and more addicted to using it. It is the number one time waster at work, and at home. All of this has caused people to have literal withdraws from their social networks. Crazy!