Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some reason romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship in not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child’s earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant’s needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things-being on the same page is very important. The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship: 1. Speak up. If something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in. 2. Respect your partner. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships. 3. Compromise. Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way. 4. Be supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down. 5. Respect each others privacy. Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything and constantly be together. Healthy relationships require space. Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re walking on eggshells. Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust, it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship. Healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to: 1. Go out with your friends without your partner. 2. Participate in activities and hobbies you like. 3. Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone. 4. Respect each others individual likes and needs. Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. Possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors are at their root exertions of power and control. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind!!!